Папы, не ломайте своих детей!



Это письмо пришло к нам в редакцию от одного папы, который очень просил его опубликовать. Это письмо- послание ко всем папам, которые забыли , что такое быть отцами!

Олег, 35 лет : «Я решил написать это письмо  после того, как стал свидетелем одной сцены между отцом и сыном в магазине Prisma. Гнев и отчаяние до сих пор одолевают меня, но мне хочется верить, что мое письмо поможет открыть глаза некоторым отцам на их поступки и их отношение к собственным детям. То, что я хочу донести – это нужно услышать и об этом важно знать!

#show_img1_400x600#

Мы с моим сыном (5 лет) стояли в очереди, где я приметил маленького мальчика лет 4-5. Он стоял рядом с папой и постоянно смотрел на него, словно хотел что-то спросить, но все время боялся. Я наблюдал за ним и тут я услышал, как он робко спросил у папы, можно ли будет купить мороженое. Как вы думаете, что сделал отец? Он гневно оттолкнул малыша и сквозь зубы процедил, что мороженое он не купит и чтобы сын отстал от него, и замолчал. Мальчик сразу же поник, опустил голову и стоял так, словно боялся  хоть на шаг подойти ближе к отцу. Сердце мое разрывалось, а злость на отца подкатила к самому горлу.

Мы двигались медленно, впереди еще было много народу. Я по прежнему наблюдал за малышом. Через какое-то время, малыш встал опять ближе к отцу, и позабыв о том гневе, который к нему только что проявили, стал что-то напевать себе под нос. И тут отец в очередной раз гневно повернулся к сыну и выругался на него. Он выругался за то, что мальчишка якобы шумит и мешает ему. Мальчик опять шарахнулся от него и замолчал. На этот раз он больше не пошевелился и не издал не звука. Его ангельское лицо опустилось и уже не отображало никаких эмоций. Он был надломлен! Отец не хотел иметь с ним дело, и сломать малыша – было все, что он мог для него сделать.

И мне хочется кричать : «Папы, что вы делаете?». Вы своими такими поступками губите своих детей, а потом сами же удивляетесь , почему ваши же дети вырастают такими испорченными! Папы, ваше лицо озаряется , когда вы видите своего ребенка утром, после того, как он проснулся? А радуетесь ли вы ему, когда он встречает вас дома после работы? И разве вы не понимаете, что все его представления о добре и зле могут вращаться вокруг того, что он прочёл на вашем лице при первой за этот день встрече? Вы должны понимать, что ребенок будет тем, что вы сами же скажете о нем. Люди всегда соответствуют тем ярлыкам, которые  на них наклеили. Вы на самом деле верите, что ваш ребенок «идиот», когда называете его так?А он теперь верит!

Как часто вы играете со своими детьми? И как часто вы им говорите, что у вас нет времени? Разве вы не понимаете, что доверие детей будет зависеть от того, играют ли с ними их папы и насколько они вовлечены во время игры? Почему вы уверены, что гнев иногда бывает необходим? Кто вам это сказал? Разве вы не понимаете, что ваш гнев – это прежде всего неумение контролировать себя? А как ломается ваш ребенок, когда в семье царит гнев? Вы настолько невосприимчивы к сиянию детской души, что совсем не чувствуете себя раздавленным, когда они вздрагивают или съёживаются в вашем присутствии. Это действительно то, что вы хотите от них? Чтобы они боялись вас?

Неужели вы не понимаете, как важно для детей чувствовать  ваши прикосновения? Вы только возьмите малыша за руку, погладьте его по голове и вы непременно ощутите какие стойкие духовные связи появятся у вас.

Папы, проснитесь! Это маленькие беззащитные души, которые пока что еще в ваших руках. И только вы решаете – сломать их или помочь им раскрыться! Все что вы скажете и не скажете, все это влияет на их способности и успех в жизни. Понимаете ли вы, как легко заставить вашего ребёнка почувствовать себя униженным? Так же легко, как сказать «с какой стати ты это сделал!?» или «сколько раз можно повторять…»

Папы, разговаривайте с детьми мягко! Разговаривайте спокойно. И черт возьми, папы! Каждый ребенок имеет право попросить мороженое, когда ему это захочется и не быть за это приниженным и сломленным. Каждый ребёнок имеет врождённое право быть счастливым: и хихикать, и смеяться, и играть. Почему вы им не разрешаете этого? Каждый ребёнок на земле имеет право на папу, который думает прежде, чем говорит; папу, который понимает, что ему дали великую власть – формировать жизнь другого человека; папу, который любит своего ребёнка

Да, вы можете считать меня трусом, что я не сказал всего этого тому папе в очереди. Пусть это останется на моей совести. Но хотя бы сейчас мне хочется верить, что даже если всего один папа прочтёт этот текст и решит стать лучше, если жизнь хотя бы одного ребёнка станет лучше, потому что мои слова затронули его отца, то каждая секунда времени, которую я потратил, была не напрасна.

Мне нравится6

Поделиться в соц. сетях

Опубликовать в Google Buzz
Опубликовать в Google Plus
Опубликовать в LiveJournal
Опубликовать в Мой Мир
Опубликовать в Одноклассники


110 Комментариев для “Папы, не ломайте своих детей!”

  1. I simply want to mention I am just very new to weblog and certainly enjoyed your page. Most likely I’m planning to bookmark your blog post . You definitely have exceptional posts. Bless you for revealing your blog site.

  2. Hi, I read your new stuff regularly. Your humoristic style is awesome, keep doing what you’re doing!

  3. I really intend to show you that I am novice to wordpress blogging and undeniably admired your site. Quite possibly I am prone to remember your web post . You simply have fabulous article writing. Be Grateful For it for sharing with us your domain information.

  4. Great post. I was checking continuously this blog and I am impressed! Very helpful information specially the last part :) I care for such information much. I was looking for this certain info for a very long time. Thank you and good luck.

  5. Appreciating the persistence you put into your website and detailed information you offer. It’s great to come across a blog every once in a while that isn’t the same outdated rehashed information. Great read! I’ve saved your site and I’m adding your RSS feeds to my Google account.

  6. Howdy! I could have sworn I’ve visited this website before but after going through many of the articles I realized it’s new to me. Nonetheless, I’m certainly pleased I discovered it and I’ll be book-marking it and checking back regularly!

  7. Might be nearly unthinkable to come across well-advised individuals on this area, still you look like you are familiar with exactly what you’re talking about! Appreciate It

  8. Hello! I just would like to give a huge thumbs up for the great info you have here on this post. I will be coming back to your blog for more soon.

  9. Might be practically impossible to encounter well-advised parties on this theme, nevertheless you appear like you be aware of the things you’re talking about! Thank You

  10. It certainly is mostly close to impossible to find well-educated readers on this issue, but you look like you fully understand exactly what you’re preaching about! Thanks

  11. Heya i’m for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It truly useful & it helped me out much. I hope to give something back and help others like you aided me.

  12. Very efficiently written post. It will be supportive to anybody who usess it, as well as yours truly :). Keep up the good work — looking forward to more posts.

  13. Thank you for any other informative site. The place else may just I am getting that kind of information written in such a perfect way? I’ve a challenge that I am just now running on, and I’ve been at the glance out for such info.

  14. I¡¦ve read several just right stuff here. Definitely worth bookmarking for revisiting. I surprise how much effort you put to create this type of great informative website.

  15. You are a very intelligent person!

  16. It certainly is almost unattainable to encounter well-aware men or women on this issue, nonetheless you look like you understand the things that you’re covering! Excellent

  17. Fantastic site. Plenty of helpful info here. I am sending it to several buddies ans also sharing in delicious. And naturally, thanks on your sweat!

  18. It is actually a nice and helpful piece of information. I¡¦m happy that you just shared this useful info with us. Please stay us informed like this. Thank you for sharing.

  19. I have to voice my love for your kindness supporting individuals that really want help on your idea. Your real dedication to getting the solution across was definitely productive and have always allowed employees like me to attain their targets. Your new interesting suggestions indicates a great deal a person like me and much more to my colleagues. Many thanks; from all of us.

  20. Hello there, just became aware of your blog through Google, and found that it is truly informative. I am going to watch out for brussels. I’ll be grateful if you continue this in future. A lot of people will be benefited from your writing. Cheers!

  21. Someone necessarily assist to make severely posts I might state. That is the first time I frequented your website page and so far? I amazed with the research you made to make this actual put up extraordinary. Fantastic activity!

  22. Awsome post and straight to the point. I am not sure if this is actually the best place to ask but do you folks have any thoughts on where to employ some professional writers? Thx :)

  23. You completed several good points there. I did a search on the topic and found mainly folks will go along with with your blog.

  24. Awsome blog! I am loving it!! Will come back again. I am bookmarking your feeds also

  25. You can certainly see your expertise within the paintings you write. The world hopes for more passionate writers like you who are not afraid to say how they believe. Always follow your heart.

  26. I’m commenting to make you be aware of what a extraordinary discovery my friend’s princess gained using your web site. She even learned numerous things, including how it is like to possess a wonderful helping mindset to let certain people without problems completely grasp some extremely tough issues. You really exceeded our own expected results. Thank you for showing these invaluable, dependable, educational and fun thoughts on that topic to Tanya.

  27. What’s up, I log on to your blog like every week. Your story-telling style is awesome, keep doing what you’re doing!

  28. Six feet of earth make all men equal.

  29. The devil tempts all men but idle men tempt the devil.

  30. Work relieves us from three great evils boredom vice and want.

  31. Great post. I was checking continuously this blog and I am impressed! Very helpful information specially the last part :) I care for such information a lot. I was seeking this certain information for a long time. Thank you and good luck.

  32. With true friends… even water drunk together is sweet enough.

  33. Getting money is like digging with a needle spending it is like water soaking into sand.

  34. Hello! I simply would like to give an enormous thumbs up for the great data you may have right here on this post. I might be coming again to your blog for extra soon.

  35. I just wanted to compose a small comment to thank you for all the fantastic pointers you are giving on this website. My time consuming internet search has finally been paid with beneficial insight to exchange with my great friends. I would tell you that most of us visitors actually are very endowed to exist in a perfect community with many outstanding people with insightful plans. I feel really grateful to have seen your entire web pages and look forward to really more exciting minutes reading here. Thanks a lot once more for a lot of things.

  36. Apple now has Rhapsody as an app, which is a great start, but it is currently hampered by the inability to store locally on your iPod, and has a dismal 64kbps bit rate. If this changes, then it will somewhat negate this advantage for the Zune, but the 10 songs per month will still be a big plus in Zune Pass’ favor.

  37. This is getting a bit more subjective, but I much prefer the Zune Marketplace. The interface is colorful, has more flair, and some cool features like ‘Mixview’ that let you quickly see related albums, songs, or other users related to what you’re listening to. Clicking on one of those will center on that item, and another set of «neighbors» will come into view, allowing you to navigate around exploring by similar artists, songs, or users. Speaking of users, the Zune «Social» is also great fun, letting you find others with shared tastes and becoming friends with them. You then can listen to a playlist created based on an amalgamation of what all your friends are listening to, which is also enjoyable. Those concerned with privacy will be relieved to know you can prevent the public from seeing your personal listening habits if you so choose.

  38. The Zune concentrates on being a Portable Media Player. Not a web browser. Not a game machine. Maybe in the future it’ll do even better in those areas, but for now it’s a fantastic way to organize and listen to your music and videos, and is without peer in that regard. The iPod’s strengths are its web browsing and apps. If those sound more compelling, perhaps it is your best choice.

  39. Zune and iPod: Most people compare the Zune to the Touch, but after seeing how slim and surprisingly small and light it is, I consider it to be a rather unique hybrid that combines qualities of both the Touch and the Nano. It’s very colorful and lovely OLED screen is slightly smaller than the touch screen, but the player itself feels quite a bit smaller and lighter. It weighs about 2/3 as much, and is noticeably smaller in width and height, while being just a hair thicker.

  40. Hands down, Apple’s app store wins by a mile. It’s a huge selection of all sorts of apps vs a rather sad selection of a handful for Zune. Microsoft has plans, especially in the realm of games, but I’m not sure I’d want to bet on the future if this aspect is important to you. The iPod is a much better choice in that case.

  41. I simply want to tell you that I am all new to weblog and honestly enjoyed your web blog. Very likely I’m likely to bookmark your site . You surely come with tremendous posts. Cheers for sharing your web site.

  42. I simply want to mention I’m very new to blogging and truly loved your web site. Almost certainly I’m likely to bookmark your site . You surely come with amazing articles and reviews. Many thanks for revealing your website page.

  43. I just want to tell you that I am just very new to blogging and site-building and definitely savored this web-site. More than likely I’m likely to bookmark your blog . You definitely have awesome article content. Bless you for sharing with us your web page.

  44. I simply want to mention I am newbie to weblog and actually enjoyed this web page. More than likely I’m want to bookmark your website . You actually come with incredible writings. Kudos for sharing with us your blog.

  45. I just want to say I am very new to blogging and site-building and definitely loved your web site. Likely I’m going to bookmark your blog . You definitely have remarkable posts. Bless you for revealing your website page.

  46. It truly is near extremely difficult to come across well-qualified individual on this theme, unfortunately you come across as like you be aware of exactly what you’re writing about! Thanks A Lot

  47. I just want to tell you that I am just new to weblog and honestly savored you’re web page. Almost certainly I’m likely to bookmark your blog . You actually have incredible article content. With thanks for sharing with us your web site.

  48. Heya i am for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It really useful & it helped me out much. I hope to give something back and help others like you helped me.

  49. Wow, incredible blog layout! How long have you ever been running a blog for? you made running a blog look easy. The whole look of your site is magnificent, let alone the content!

  50. Great ¡V I should definitely pronounce, impressed with your site. I had no trouble navigating through all the tabs and related info ended up being truly easy to do to access. I recently found what I hoped for before you know it in the least. Reasonably unusual. Is likely to appreciate it for those who add forums or something, site theme . a tones way for your client to communicate. Excellent task..

  51. I’ll gear this review to 2 types of people: current Zune owners who are considering an upgrade, and people trying to decide between a Zune and an iPod. (There are other players worth considering out there, like the Sony Walkman X, but I hope this gives you enough info to make an informed decision of the Zune vs players other than the iPod line as well.)

  52. Hands down, Apple’s app store wins by a mile. It’s a huge selection of all sorts of apps vs a rather sad selection of a handful for Zune. Microsoft has plans, especially in the realm of games, but I’m not sure I’d want to bet on the future if this aspect is important to you. The iPod is a much better choice in that case.

  53. Between me and my husband we’ve owned more MP3 players over the years than I can count, including Sansas, iRivers, iPods (classic & touch), the Ibiza Rhapsody, etc. But, the last few years I’ve settled down to one line of players. Why? Because I was happy to discover how well-designed and fun to use the underappreciated (and widely mocked) Zunes are.

  54. You made some decent points there. I did a search on the subject and found most individuals will agree with your blog.

  55. Thank you for the auspicious writeup. It in fact was a amusement account it. Look advanced to more added agreeable from you! However, how can we communicate?

  56. Well I truly enjoyed studying it. This article offered by you is very practical for accurate planning.

  57. You actually make it seem so easy with your presentation but I find this matter to be really something that I think I would never understand. It seems too complex and extremely broad for me. I’m looking forward for your next post, I will try to get the hang of it!

  58. Excellent blog here! Also your site loads up fast! What host are you using? Can I get your affiliate link to your host? I wish my website loaded up as fast as yours lol

  59. I have been examinating out some of your articles and i can state pretty nice stuff. I will definitely bookmark your website.

  60. Nice read, I just passed this onto a colleague who was doing some research on that. And he just bought me lunch as I found it for him smile Therefore let me rephrase that: Thanks for lunch!

  61. page:

    I just want to say I am just beginner to blogs and honestly loved you’re web site. Likely I’m planning to bookmark your website . You actually have remarkable writings. Thank you for sharing with us your webpage.

  62. This is getting a bit more subjective, but I much prefer the Zune Marketplace. The interface is colorful, has more flair, and some cool features like ‘Mixview’ that let you quickly see related albums, songs, or other users related to what you’re listening to. Clicking on one of those will center on that item, and another set of «neighbors» will come into view, allowing you to navigate around exploring by similar artists, songs, or users. Speaking of users, the Zune «Social» is also great fun, letting you find others with shared tastes and becoming friends with them. You then can listen to a playlist created based on an amalgamation of what all your friends are listening to, which is also enjoyable. Those concerned with privacy will be relieved to know you can prevent the public from seeing your personal listening habits if you so choose.

  63. No man limps because another is hurt.

  64. Better suffer for the truth than proper in a falsehood.

  65. Between me and my husband we have a tendency to’ve owned more MP3 players over the years than I will count, as well as Sansas, iRivers, iPods (classic & touch), the Ibiza Rhapsody, etc. But, the previous few years I’ve settled down to one line of players. Why? Because I was happy to get how well-designed and fun to use the underappreciated (and widely mocked) Zunes are.

  66. Apple now has Rhapsody as an app, which is a great start, but it is currently hampered by the inability to store locally on your iPod, and has a dismal 64kbps bit rate. If this changes, then it will somewhat negate this advantage for the Zune, but the 10 songs per month will still be a big plus in Zune Pass’ favor.

  67. I was just looking for this information for some time. After 6 hours of continuous Googleing, finally I got it in your site. I wonder what is the lack of Google strategy that do not rank this type of informative web sites in top of the list. Usually the top web sites are full of garbage.

  68. i think that Budget Protector is the only app for methe good thing about it is that Rather seeing how much we spend and then saving the rest, we’re determining how much we need to save, and then spending the rest

  69. Hello, i believe that i saw you visited my weblog so i came to “go back the want”.I am attempting to in finding things to enhance my web site!I suppose its good enough to make use of some of your concepts!!

  70. I conceive you have remarked some very interesting details, thanks for the post.

  71. This is a topic which is close to my heart… Best wishes! Exactly where are your contact details though?|

  72. It’s going to be end of mine day, however before finish I am reading this fantastic article to improve my experience.|

  73. I all the time emailed this webpage post page to all my associates, because if like to read it afterward my friends will too.|

  74. Greetings! Very helpful advice in this particular post! It is the little changes that will make the most important changes. Thanks for sharing!|

  75. Hey I am so delighted I found your site, I really found you by accident, while I was researching on Yahoo for something else, Nonetheless I am here now and would just like to say thanks for a marvelous post and a all round entertaining blog (I also love the theme/design), I don’t have time to browse it all at the moment but I have saved it and also added your RSS feeds, so when I have time I will be back to read a great deal more, Please do keep up the fantastic work.

  76. Thanks for your thoughts. One thing I’ve got noticed is the fact banks in addition to financial institutions know the spending routines of consumers while also understand that many people max outside their credit cards around the getaways. They prudently take advantage of this particular fact and begin flooding ones inbox and snail-mail box by using hundreds of 0 APR credit card offers shortly after the holiday season finishes. Knowing that if you’re like 98 of American community, you’ll soar at the possiblity to consolidate consumer credit card debt and transfer balances for 0 interest rates credit cards.

  77. One more important area is that if you are a senior citizen, travel insurance intended for pensioners is something you need to really think about. The mature you are, the greater at risk you are for having something awful happen to you while in most foreign countries. If you are not covered by some comprehensive insurance plan, you could have many serious issues. Thanks for sharing your advice on this blog.

  78. With havin so much written content do you ever run into any problems of plagorism or copyright infringement? My site has a lot of unique content I’ve either written myself or outsourced but it looks like a lot of it is popping it up all over the web without my agreement. Do you know any solutions to help stop content from being stolen? I’d definitely appreciate it.

  79. Via my observation, shopping for electronic products online can for sure be expensive, yet there are some principles that you can use to obtain the best deals. There are generally ways to locate discount promotions that could help make one to come across the best technology products at the smallest prices. Thanks for your blog post.

  80. Your home is valueble for me. Thanks!…

  81. Thank you for the good writeup. It in fact was a amusement account it. Look advanced to more added agreeable from you! However, how could we communicate?

  82. We’re a group of volunteers and starting a new scheme in our community. Your web site provided us with valuable info to work on. You’ve done a formidable job and our entire community will be thankful to you.

  83. Heya i am for the first time here. I came across this board and I find It really useful & it helped me out much. I hope to give something back and aid others like you helped me.

  84. You made a few fine points there. I did a search on the matter and found nearly all folks will consent with your blog.

  85. Magnificent website. A lot of useful info here. I’m sending it to some buddies ans also sharing in delicious. And naturally, thanks to your sweat!

  86. It is best to take part in a contest for one of the best blogs on the web. I’ll suggest this site!

  87. I have learned new things through your blog site. One other thing I would like to say is that newer computer os’s often allow extra memory for use, but they likewise demand more ram simply to function. If someone’s computer can’t handle more memory and the newest program requires that memory space increase, it is usually the time to shop for a new PC. Thanks

  88. Right now it appears like Movable Type is the best blogging platform available right now. (from what I’ve read) Is that what you are using on your blog?

  89. Thank you for another informative site. Where else could I get that kind of info written in such an ideal way? I have a project that I am just now working on, and I’ve been on the look out for such information.

  90. That is the right weblog for anyone who wants to seek out out about this topic. You notice so much its virtually laborious to argue with you (not that I truly would need…HaHa). You undoubtedly put a brand new spin on a subject thats been written about for years. Nice stuff, just nice!

  91. My brother suggested I might like this blog. He was entirely right. This post truly made my day. You can not imagine just how much time I had spent for this info! Thanks!

  92. Hello.This article was really fascinating, particularly because I was investigating for thoughts on this issue last Friday.

  93. Do you have a spam issue on this site; I also am a blogger, and I was curious about your situation; we have developed some nice methods and we are looking to swap techniques with others, why not shoot me an email if interested.

  94. I’ve been surfing online more than 3 hours today, yet I never found any interesting article like yours. It is pretty worth enough for me. In my view, if all site owners and bloggers made good content as you did, the web will be a lot more useful than ever before.

  95. Zune and iPod: Most people compare the Zune to the Touch, but after seeing how slim and surprisingly small and light it is, I consider it to be a rather unique hybrid that combines qualities of both the Touch and the Nano. It’s very colorful and lovely OLED screen is slightly smaller than the touch screen, but the player itself feels quite a bit smaller and lighter. It weighs about 2/3 as much, and is noticeably smaller in width and height, while being just a hair thicker.

  96. Sorry for the huge review, but I’m really loving the new Zune, and hope this, as well as the excellent reviews some other people have written, will help you decide if it’s the right choice for you.

  97. EzraMU Season 8 Mu Online Romania High EXP XP — EzraMU Online site, massively multiplayer online role-paying game! Find the latest news, trailers, game download, and the official forum.Since 2009!

  98. The new Zune browser is surprisingly good, but not as good as the iPod’s. It works well, but isn’t as fast as Safari, and has a clunkier interface. If you occasionally plan on using the web browser that’s not an issue, but if you’re planning to browse the web alot from your PMP then the iPod’s larger screen and better browser may be important.

  99. Sorry for the huge review, but I’m really loving the new Zune, and hope this, as well as the excellent reviews some other people have written, will help you decide if it’s the right choice for you.

  100. Hi there! I simply want to give a huge thumbs up for the great info you might have here on this post. I will probably be coming again to your weblog for extra soon.

  101. I have observed that clever real estate agents just about everywhere are Marketing and advertising. They are acknowledging that it’s not only placing a sign post in the front place. It’s really pertaining to building human relationships with these suppliers who sooner or later will become customers. So, while you give your time and energy to helping these traders go it alone : the «Law involving Reciprocity» kicks in. Great blog post.

  102. Lovely site! I am loving it!! Will be back later to read some more. I am bookmarking your feeds also.

  103. Your home is valueble for me. Thanks!…

  104. Definitely believe that that you said. Your favourite reason seemed to be on the internet the simplest factor to remember of. I say to you, I certainly get irked whilst people consider concerns that they just don’t recognise about. You controlled to hit the nail upon the highest as neatly as defined out the entire thing with no need side effect , other folks can take a signal. Will likely be back to get more. Thanks

  105. obviously like your website but you have to check the spelling on several of your posts. A number of them are rife with spelling problems and I find it very troublesome to tell the truth nevertheless I’ll surely come back again.

  106. As I website possessor I believe the content material here is rattling excellent , appreciate it for your efforts. You should keep it up forever! Best of luck.

  107. I simply want to say I am very new to blogging and seriously loved you’re page. Probably I’m likely to bookmark your site . You surely come with fantastic well written articles. Thanks a bunch for sharing your web-site.

Добавить комментарий

Ваш e-mail не будет опубликован. Обязательные поля помечены *



Авторизация

Регистрация
Забыли пароль?

Регистрация

Пароль не введён
Вход

Генерация пароля

Вход
Регистрация