Как бороться с детскими истериками? Отвечает Таллиннский центр семейных отношений



Сегодня мы рассмотрим вопрос - как бороться с детскими истериками? Отвечает психолог Марина Максимова (Таллиннский центр семейных отношений)

Ребёнок психует, если ему в чём-то отказывают, или если просьба удовлетворяется не сразу. Может начать орать, плакать или даже полезть драться.

Люба (сыну 1,6 года) и Лена (дочке 1,5 года).

Дорогие Люба и Лена, в борьбе с детскими истериками очень важно осознать: борьба, «перетягивание каната» ни к чему хорошему не приведут. Родитель заведомо сильнее ребёнка, ему ничего не стоит подавить волю маленького человека. Так что самое главное – с самого начала настроить себя на мирное разрешение конфликта.Главное в борьбе с истериками – уходить от противостояния, борьбы. Истерику легче предотвратить, чем потом с ней сражаться. Предотвратить – это значит, действовать гибко,  в зависимости от сложившейся ситуации. Не нужно думать, что всегда, в любом случае Вас со стопроцентной гарантией выручит какой-нибудь отработанный, надёжный приём.

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Способов реакцию на истерику в Вашем педагогическом арсенале должно быть несколько.Следует отметить, что истерики с маленькими детьми время от времени случаются, и это вполне естественно – ребёнок в полтора года уже выделяет себя из окружения, он начинает активно познавать и исследовать мир, искать способы взаимодействия с ним. Огромной частью мира ребёнка являются члены его семьи – мама, папа, бабушка. И от того, насколько любящими, добрыми и психологически подготовленными окажутся взрослые, будет зависеть многое. Ребёнок в общении с родными невольно испытывает границы допустимого. И это естественно, потому что познать, где же кончается «можно» и начинается «нельзя», получается только на собственном опыте и во взаимодействии со взрослыми.

К сожалению, в письме не приводится конкретное описание ситуаций или обстоятельств, при которых у ребёнка возникла истерика. Иногда родители замечают, что часто истерики возникают при одних и тех же ситуациях, в определённое время суток. Нужно внимательно наблюдать за своим малышом и запоминать, при каких обстоятельствах и как часто с ним происходят истерики — например, малыш устал или не справился с обилием впечатлений в супермаркете. Важно также понимать, что ребёнок реагирует на запрет и отказ в просьбе в силу особенностей своего темперамента, а он у всех детей разный. Есть дети более наступательные и агрессивные от природы, есть – менее. Но именно от того, как Вы будете реагировать на поведение ребёнка, когда он протестует и требует, зависит закрепление его дальнейшего поведения при таких ситуациях.

При истериках лучше с самого начала реагировать на них спокойно.Ни в коем случае не следует кричать на ребёнка в ответ, дёргать его за руку, трясти и отталкивать от себя.Мне неприятно писать об этом, но мой опыт и наблюдения свидетельствуют о том, что так иногда могут вести себя родители, пытаясь остановить громкий плач или крики ребёнка  в общественных местах. Хуже всего то, что в ответ на такие действия родителей ребёнок ещё сильнее заходится в плаче. В этой ситуации родителю важно прежде всего понять, что такое поведение крайне непродуктивно, потому что главная задача – успокоить ребёнка – остаётся невыполненной.

Основной алгоритм действий при истериках: сохранять спокойствие, отстраниться, а когда малыш немного успокоится, отвлечь его внимание, постараться заинтересовать чем-нибудь другим. Внимание маленьких детей очень подвижно, и если Вы предложите или покажете малышу что-то интересное, увлекательное, то он быстро переключится. С другой стороны, не стоит поддаваться эмоциональному шантажу и дейст вовать по принципу: «Чем бы дитя не тешилось, лишь бы не плакало». Подобное поведение может закрепиться, и ребёнок будет становиться всё более требовательным и даже капризным.Такие проблемы часто возникают, когда за ребёнком ухаживают два человека – например,  мама и бабушка: кто-то позволяет больше, кто-то – меньше, и ребёнок теряется, он сам не знает границ своего поведения. И при таких условиях воспитания, конечно же, очень важно, чтобы мама и бабушка договорились между собой и установили, что же ребёнку можно, а что – нельзя, иначе малыш будет сбит с толку. Представления родителя о том, что можно, а что нельзя, должны быть обоснованными и не должны меняться в зависимости от настроения родителей.

И напоследок – хороший педагогический приём: — запретив что-нибудь, сказав слово «нельзя», обязательно предложите малышу то, что делать МОЖНО. «Книги трогать нельзя, а игрушки – МОЖНО. Давай с тобой посмотрим Наши игрушки».

«Бегать сейчас нельзя, а вот вместе с мамой  пойти в другую комнату – МОЖНО».

Как будет хорошо, если уже в самом раннем детстве малыш поймёт, что мир полон не только запретов, но и замечательных возможностей.

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